I was talking to my boyfriend yesterday morning and I’ve come to a decision. I am going to stop saying the word “try”. By saying the word “try”, I’m using it as an excuse for not doing whatever I need to. “I’m trying” is so noncommittal. It is as Yoda says, “Try not. Do or do not, there is no try!” I need to stop “trying” and sincerely commit to “doing”.
So what brought about this decision? Well, as most of my friends know, we just got back from an amazing holiday in the UK. Nothing like a good adventure to put your life in perspective. That and a quote by Orrin Woodward that a friend of mine posted on his Facebook page a couple days ago: “If you want to live the life you have always wanted, you need to address the things you have avoided.” Now that is something I needed to read.
That quote really resonated with my as I often have glimpses of the life I want to live, but never the full picture. And to truly confront the issue that is keeping me from having my life, I have to be honest with myself. I can barely call what I’ve been doing trying. I need to stop attempting to do the things I want to do and do them. And that starts with changing my language.
It is not going to be easy removing the word “try” from my language. But it isn’t going to be horribly difficult either. Let’s just take a minute to create a list of words you can substitute for “try”. There’s “I’m working on it” (shows that you are actively doing something), “I’m not/I am (shows that you currently are or are not doing something), I will (not the best, but better than “try”), I can, and the list goes on.
Changing my language is only the first step to attaining the life I want. And this change begins today. It may look like a small step, but this is a pretty big deal in my opinion. I heard that it takes around 21 days to lose/develop a habit. If that is true, then for the next 3 weeks I will be working on removing the word “try” from my language.