In the past, when something in my life didn’t go as planned I would most likely stress out. Not that this has changed completely. I have now learned that some cases will don’t need to be stressed over. Such as today. Today I realised that when life doesn’t go as planned, all you need to do is improvise. Or at the very least be open to it.
How did I come to this realisation you ask? Simple really. I didn’t have what I needed to make dinner. I was going to go to the store to get it, but then I didn’t have something else I needed to do that. Because of this, I had to improvise my typical meal plan. Did I stress about it? For a split second maybe. Then I looked in the fridge and I knew what I needed to do.
If life has taught me anything, it is that nothing truly ever goes as planned. As a teenager, I had this belief that I would marry, have the proverbial white picket fence, a career, family, the typical American dream. Now in my 30s, I have learned that this never happens to the majority of people. I moved to Miami with a dream, which didn’t happen. I changed my major to follow a more realistic dream, that still hasn’t taken me where I thought it would. I earned 2 MAs and am still serving a restaurant. What has this taught me? To improvise. To adapt to whatever new challenges present themselves. To enjoy the journey rather than stress about the ending. I have had an amazing life filled with adventure, learning, friendship, love, disappointment, fear, joy, and a myriad of other emotions.
I have been led on a journey all the richer due to my ability to improvise and adapt. Rather than let my disappointment consume me and wallow in self-pity, I stressed for a bit, figured out what needed to be, weighed my options, made a decision, and moved on. Where all the decisions the right ones? Maybe not. I often wondered if it had been wise to move to England to get my second MA. But I learned from it. It has now led me to a place on my journey that I need to be. And to be honest, I am amazed at how happy and blessed I am.
If I can impart one piece of wisdom, don’t be afraid to improvise. Be open to it, be adaptable. You will never know what adventures your life has in store for you if you resist this amazing ability. Then, one day, you could be attempting to make dinner and suddenly realise what a valuable you have learned. Much love 🙂